I used to worry that the old notion that men think about sex several times a minute was likely to make men who thought about sex less frequently which would have been all of the men in our study feel somehow as if they weren't the same as other men. We weren't able to study how long the thoughts lasted or the nature of the thoughts. We didn't want the participants to know that we were exclusively focused on sexuality, because that may have influenced who chose to participate in the study. After our college student study was complete, I began a second study using a community sample of adults over the age of We were interested only in comparing equivalent groups of women and men. Of course everyone is different, but as a year-old hetero guy living in New York City these seem to be a pretty accurate portrait of how a lot of men perceive sex with women. Even though this was a study of sex differences, much of the media coverage has focused only on the male findings. We obviously need much more research with individuals past the age of 25, but that is much harder to accomplish. Penis worship in any form whether verbal or physical is like Viagra to us. Share your thoughts on Facebook or the comments. However, there is quite a bit of research to suggest that they are more similar than different, even among college students, who are likely at an age at which gender differences in sexuality are maximized. Interestingly, when participants had been asked prior to the start of the study to indicate how many times a day they thought about sex, food, and sleep, the men reported thinking more about sex than did the women, but there were no sex differences for the other two topics. Therefore, we decided to promote our research to potential participants as a study of college student health.