What role can women play in men's sexual health? Women often come to bed willing to have a good experience, but not really wanting or craving sex until aroused. Maybe we need to, you know watching or listening to WebMD I heard the doctor talk about high cholesterol as a cause, or sleep problems as a cause, and that will really help drive men to the doctor in a positive way. While many women do learn orgasm through self-stimulation, a large proportion begin their sexual lives within a relationship or hook-up. Romance and seduction are ways that both men and women can co-create a context for sex that helps her separate from the cares of her day and her mental checklist of things to do, and brings her to a place of vulnerability. Steven Lamm, MD cont. But our starting place is often different. Men and women both need to feel deeply attached to their partner for happiness. Sex begins in the mind. Women have to understand that if they notice a change in their husband's or their partner's performance, it's not the result of let's say a problem with the relationship, although it might be, alright, but it is really an opportunity for them to say, you know honey, I think that we really probably need to go to the doctor because sex is important in our relationship, but maybe even more so, I'm concerned about your health. Expert, fun, not salacious talk to show how a man and a woman can talk more easily about sex. And sometimes getting to the peak of arousal can be a bumpy climb; for many women, it may take up 45 minutes. Just as men often expect abundant sex after marriage , women have expectations of lots of continuing romance that assures her of her sexual desirability. Sex is an aspect of love. Emotional intimacy combined with sexual intimacy is the combination that creates a passionate marriage or partnership. Sex is a mixed bag.