This sounds piggish, but my wife, of her own volition, has been going to weight watchers and lost 25 lbs so far, about 5 lbs. Have no other besides her A woman can feel sexy but when her man celebrates her sex appeal she feels even sexier. We will cover adventures in parenting, relationships and entertaining. Make sure that there won't be core dance moves that she or you can't do -- I don't know how important being in shape is for this kind of dancing You would be spending time together doing things that will add to your appreciation of your own bodies after the awkward first few lessons , and spending time together without talking about housework. You have to tap into her emotions and get her excited for you. If you want it to be a surprise, get her a custom made outfit that isn't your great date dress as a gift, and then, once the dressmaker has seen her and taken her full measurements and such, they should be able to make the special dress from that, and have it fit. Women have an amazing ability to smell bullshit from 10 miles away so ensure that you are genuine with your words. And dark colors - black, dark red, dark purple. Or, she could, in her own way, be at least as "perverse" as you, or more, with certain fetishistic turn-ons. Once you get addicted to staring at porn stars, soon you will start lusting after women physically around you. She probably doesn't want a man like that. Or when we are sick and feel terrible, it would brighten up our day to be called beautiful then as well. Tell her how much you desire her. Take your time with her. It's probably a wise idea to let her know exactly how you feel without making her feel ashamed or inadequate.