The vagina is made to be well-oiled. I know that fingering helped me, I used to be very small and one finger was very uncomfortable when I was inserting tampons. Mcm23 Hey, there is a special item called a vaginal dilator that you can purchase in sets of 5 or 6 sizes, with instructions about how to use the product to CAREFULLY stretch the vagina. A Collection of Feminist Erotica Sex positive feminists unite! Ambertexas56 Try using 'Lube' And also, try using the fingering technique, just until the vagina isn't so tight, I was the same, after some fingering, and, the lube, you'll b just fine. How the woman feels. So I completely understand. To be clear, though, it is important to understand that not all vaginas belong to women, and not all penises belong to men. You aren't that woman, don't read that literature. All bodies are different. All the literature on weak pelvic floor was designed for women who have had natural births and who haven't recovered their youthful pelvic floor stability they are 'too loose'. Your partner will hate the idea of causing you any pain. But the other important thing to remember is that you need to be relaxed in order to be penetrated. However, it can take them a few trial and errors to figure out exactly whats causing your pain and tension. There is literally no such thing as a penis that is too girthy to fit into a vagina, medical anomalies on either end notwithstanding. Women are taught from a very young age that how attractive they are has a direct correlation with their value. It won't, or shouldn't, be nearly as tight as when he is aroused and should work similarly to the finger exercise.