Since thats what you see when you see the guys getting totally pleasure - they have had lots of practice. Nov 16, 4: In some movies, the guys are totally okay taking it, but in others, I've seen guys wince and push the guys away they don't make it obvious and sometimes when they scream, it doesn't sound like they're in the throes of passion, but pain. But your sexual style is your preference and, in fact, you're enjoying a form of eroticism that is truly safe sex — an important consideration for everyone. I've only ever had short-lived relationships, in part because I enjoy being alone. That being said, you need to know that it's going to hurt a little throughout the entire thing. Most Helpful Guy Anonymous "Even with lube, will it still hurt bad? But some people do benefit from being more erotically adventurous, and since you are questioning your well-entrenched style, it might be time to try something new. Your partner has to get your bum even more relaxed and spread it. I'd really have to trust a guy to let him try it on me or in me, I should say. I know he loves me very much but that would be so embarrassing! Is there a way to prep so that it doesn't hurt as much, I mean besides using lube?