We completely hit it off from the moment we met, and we just moved very fast. How could I be so completely selfish? He made me feel completely special, both on the inside and out. Then, a few months later, it began again. When it rains it pours, right? He treated me like a woman, rather than some immature girl. One night she might want slow, passionate sex with lots of eye contact and kissing. Deep down, I know what was going through my mind, and it pains me to say it: But spending months figuring it out, only to be disappointed, will feel like wasted time, unless you have another prospect. Others learn through trial and error and heartbreak. I was afraid if a guy found out that I was dating someone else, he would drop me. Write down both people's desirable traits, as well as their objectionable behavior. Some people instinctively know the traits and qualities they truly value in a partner. Until someone tells you you're the woman of their dreams, that they want you to meet their momma, that they're closing their online dating account and wants you to do the same, you are free to date an entire soccer team if you so desire. Sadly, the timing for this romance was completely off, with me just starting up at school and him just receiving a new, time-consuming job. I'd become intimately involved with a so-so guy, put another notch on my bedpost, get dumped , and then I'd worry about contracting STDs.