These changes increase the likelihood of a woman fully engaging with sexual sensation, but they also decrease mental acuity and can make them less guarded about what they say in the heat of the moment. The accolades, money and ego boost from being regularly praised, or promoted, can be a turn-on. Usually, Savage quotes the "eroticization of fear " hypothesis, that these men so fear their wife's infidelity that they eroticize the fear, in order to reduce the anxiety, managing it by sexuality, until they have turned the fear into a sexual fetish. In Florida, in the 's, the Sheriff husband of the "Housewife Hooker" hid in the closet videotaping his "nymphomaniac wife" with other men notably republican politicians , whom the husband then blackmailed. Do you know that there are actually a lot of women who secretly cheat on their husband because of their poor sexual performance? So - here you go - my list of the motivations, based upon my research, behind why men would be interested in watching their wives with other men: But, it is at root of Dan Savage's past responses to these men, a response that Savage and Ryan didn't repeat in this column. I think a discussion of this phenomenon deserves consideration of all the reasons and motivations. And childhood patterns of interrupted care, or neglect from constantly busy parents , can cause boys—and girls—to decide that needing is dangerous. But without using any dangerous pills or device, I was able to cure my premature ejaculation permanently and increase my manhood size to how BIG I wanted it. In fact, something happens to our brains to help us to feel relaxed and to make orgasm more likely. I find this deeply troubling. The best way for your wife to have dealt with her faux pas would have been to apologise profusely and affirm her commitment to you. Within 7 days, you will start seeing results and your chronic premature ejaculation will be a thing of the past, your condition will improve gradually.